Thursday, May 22, 2008

screwing up

Screwing up for some reason terribly frowned upon to alot of people. It's happened to everyone, everyone screws up. But it's happened to me and a bunch of other people, where we've screwed up, but quickly find that we've been exiled. alright ok then i can do it on my own, i've got my own faith.

I did my share of putting forth my effort into a friendship or try to get their attention, but out of love. But soon enough 2 years go by, and what are you to them? They dont know, they have another priority now. It's ok i can do it on my own, i've got my own faith.

Well that works for only so long. But who do  you go back to? I've got my God, but never did i have someone that wanted to do that smallgroup and dive into the word with, and just talk about God. For some reason they didnt want that, the would rather have a dance party, or go cuddle with the girlfriend or boyfriend. It really shows where their priorities are.

I was broken hearted when i was so on fire for God, and everyone else was in  their own world, and wanted nothing to do with that. But i reached out to people, but nothing. Maybe i was reaching out to the wrong people, the people i was told that would hold me accountable, didn't care to. Where was their heart? When i was to make a mistake you would assume that i did it out of my evil heart, so you would leave me be. Not knowing that treating a friend like that, with no support is they way they fall away. I've seen so many people fall away, the main reason being because no one cares to invest in them, so they say what do they care. all they want is that support from a friend. John 15:13 says "No greater love a person can so is die for his friends." How come followers of Christ don't live this up. only for them selves, they think, "Oh their of no use to me.....what am I getting out of the relationship?..."

The true friends are the ones that will call you and ask how your doing. They are the ones who may not always be around but they are the ones who care for your heart. If you can think of no one that does that, then maybe you should check your heart, and start reaching out. You make the first step, if you wait for someone else to do it, it'll never happen.

Friday, May 2, 2008

Dating Often Isolates A couple From Other Vital Relationships

While Gareth and Jenny were dating, they didn’t need anyone else. Since it meant spending time with jenny, Gareth had no problem giving up Wednesday night bible study with the guys. Jenny didn’t think twice about how little she talked to her mother and sister now that she was dating Gareth. Nor did she realize that when she talked to them, she always started her sentences with “Gareth this…” and “Gareth said this…” Without intending to, both had foolishly and selfishly cut themselves off form other relationships.
By its very definition, dating is about people focusing on each other. Unfortunately, in most cases the rest of the world fades into the background. If you’ve ever felt like a third wheel hanging out with two friends that are dating each other, you know how true this is.
Granted, of all dating’s problems this is the easiest to fix. Yet Christians still need to take it seriously. Why? First, because when we allow one relationship to crowd out others we lose perspective. In Proverbs 15:22 it says: 
“Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisors they succeed.”
if we make our decisions about life based solely on the influence of one relationship, we’ll probably make poor judgments.
Of course we make the same mistake in any number of non-romantic relationships. But we face this problem more often in dating relationships because these relationships involve our heart and emotions. And because dating focuses on the plans of a couple, major issues related to family, marriage, and faith are likely at stake.
And if two people haven’t defined their level of commitment, they’re particularly at risk. You put yourself in a precarious position if you isolate yourself from the people who love and support you because you dive wholeheartedly into a relationship not grounded on commitment, in Passion and Purity, By: Elisabeth Elliot, she states, “Unless a man is prepared to ask a woman to be his wife, what right has he to claim her exclusive attention? Unless she has been asked to marry him, why would a sensible woman promise any other man her exclusive attention?” How many people end dating relationships only to find their ties to other friends severed?
One of the saddest tendencies of dating is to distract young adults for their God given abilities and skills. Instead of equipping themselves with character, education and experience necessary to succeed in life, many allow themselves to be consumed by the present needs that dating emphasizes.
When Gareth and Jenny mutually decided to stop dating, they were surprised to find their other friendships in disrepair. It’s not that their other friends didn’t like them; they hardly knew them anymore. Neither had invested anytime or effort in maintaining these friendships while they concentrated on their dating relationship.